I never mocked your memory loss or depression. Not in the least. I said, “As a friend, how can I feel safe with you, when you have made so many abusive statements and not have any accountability around any of them? How do I move past that?” (direct quote)

That is not mocking you. That is a valid question regarding safety in our relationship. Just because you don’t remember the abuse does not mean it didn’t happen. It means you don’t remember. How will I be protected in the future so that you won’t be abusive to me? How will you have any real accountability?  You creating a story about me mocking you is invalidating my feelings about your abuse.

Lets circle back to the “abuse” she claims to have endured. I asked her not to sleep with my recent ex. She never would, and I know that, however we had been joking about it all night and I have since found text messages that verify this. She held on to this “abuse” for over a year. I’d qualify this as much more of a alcohol addled miscommunication that could have been discussed the next morning and we could have moved on..

I do not need to prove my allyship to you or any white person. Just because I haven’t posted my every movement around BLM does not mean work isn’t happening. It is, in a huge way, I don’t have to prove anything to you, I need to prove it to my BIPOC friends. According to them, I’m doing great! I know this because I have asked. I am half-white, I am not racist against white people, but “reverse racism” is a fun and tired white person argument.

Oh, I guess I’m the only one expected to prove my allyship to people? huh.

I have had so much integrity with you. So much so that I have no problem with you sharing this entire email conversation with anyone, especially your new BIPOC friends. In fact, I invite you to share this entire conversation with them, your therapist or anyone and hear what they have to say about it. 

Word. Here I am sharing it with anyone and everyone with an internet connection. Feel free to let me know what you think about my levels of “racism to its very core” and “abusive toxic culture poaching gaslighting”

I call out toxic behavior, I will always call it out. If you that’s what you mean by “vilify” then I will happily accept that label. It is delusional that you say I refuse to hold constructive coversersations or tell people why I am mad, when I literally opened this conversation with you.

You have lost sight of the original points made in this conversation: Your abusive behavior and your ingrained racism. You have deflected the conversation to my behavior. It sounds like you have been harboring judgements about me without telling me. How beautifully hypocritical of you.

As far as I am concerned this conversation has come to an end. I ask that you don’t reach out to me at all unless you want to take any real accountability for your behavior.