It was around mid July. I had N in town staying with me. You might remember him from her first email. I started getting texts from multiple friends that she had sent an email to them. She had unfollowed or blocked everyone I see on a regular basis by this point. I had N check and see if he got the email. He hadn’t. When I pondered why that could be, he informed me that she had called him in 2020 to shit talk me and get him on board. He declined to participate. She never spoke to him again and they had been very good friends up until this juncture. He is in her city frequently but never sees her. As I fielded more texts I heard from more and more people about how she had called them in 2020 to get them to find me to be a bad person, a bad friend, a racist-toxic-gaslighting-victim-abuser. Her “abuser” – I am thankful to my real friends. I am also thankful they didn’t tell me this in 2020 as it would not have impacted my mental health well. I am grateful they waited until 2024 to share this and immediately shared her email.

July 2024

I’m reaching out to offer you clarification for some of my choices over the last couple of months. Out of respect for our long standing relationship, I feel you deserve an explanation.

In May, it was brought to my attention via screenshots from multiple sources that (my first and last)  has been writing slanderous posts on social media, specifically using my initials and whole name. In the weeks that followed, I received additional similar social media posts (some of which are still public) spanning back multiple years.

I will never be the kind of person that will ever make friends choose a side. However, I must use my own discernment with people who are willing to look the other way on abusive behavior being inflicted upon on me or anyone else.

I have been quite done for some time thinking and caring about that relationship, having completely moved on in every aspect of my life. The only reason I’m writing this is because I have seen with my own eyes that she cannot seem to keep my name out of her mouth. I’m trying to healthfully heal, with empathy as my true north and without the lower frequencies of vengeance and ego. For healing without vengeance means I walk away from needing to prove myself right. I know the truth. I have it in writing. Contrary to what she says, there is not much more to the story.

I have been conflicted on how to navigate the mutual friends that still remain in close community with her. I am choosing to set up strict boundaries. Now it is clear, I cannot have any friends in my close circle or in my life who remain in close friendship with (my first and last) In consideration of her continued stalking and slandering as well as your closeness in friendship to her, I think it’s best for me to bow out. I consider it a safety issue that she has any sort of access to me and my family. I can no longer remain friends with people who are complicit to my abuse.

Thank you for many years of friendship. I wish you all the best and walk away with nothing but love and cherished memories of you.

No need to respond. I’m offering you the same respect I would like if I was in the same position. Closure. I just want to take full accountability for my choices so no one else can fill the blanks for you with untruths

Best of luck in your future endeavors,

Let’s address this piece by piece shall we? Why is she sharing my first and last in this email? I have a very unusual first name and nobody receiving this email knows anyone else by my name. It’s giving AI. Just like “Best of luck on your future endeavors”

She “would never make anyone choose a side”, yet called everyone and posted to thousands of people calling me slurs? She is well known for making people pick a side.

Girl, I know the truth. I have it in writing. I have the screen shots. I have all the receipts. You aggressively talked shit about someone you called your best friend on multiple social media platforms as a social media influencer against a private individual.

At some point last summer I realized by threads had to be public to post comments and now its public. I guess thats what she is referring to? There have never been any other posts aside from the two I mentioned in my last post.

“stalking” – ummm? I never looked at her public IG or anything else. We blocked each other, remember? That block is still in place. I followed her public account on twitter until 2022 to see if she posted more defamatory words about me. How does that equal stalking?

Slander? LOL. Slander is spreading blatant verbal lies. I’ve spread not one lie. I have every receipt. Nor have I spoke to it.

“complicit to my abuse” – oh here she goes again with her abuse. Everyone is her abuser. Everything is abuse. Frankly, it’s insulting to actual victims of abuse that she just tosses that out when she doesn’t get her way. It’s disrespectful to people who have been gaslit when you call everything you don’t like “gaslighting”

She trash talked me, deflamed me on social media and aggressively tried to rope in everyone I know… yet I’m abusing her? Anyone who doesn’t jump on her side is “complicit to her abuse?” Huh?

If anyone has “suffered abuse” it’s me, but I’m sure as shit not going to make that kind of claim. I’m fine. Not suffering abuse. I’m of strong mental health and sense of self. I dealt with a shitty person who felt entitled to post about me online and shit talk me to everyone who would listen. She has not been “abused” by me in the least.

Everyone she ostracizes is complicit to her abuse. Generally because she cant find a way to directly call them an abuser or toxic. Her family is complicit to her abuse. All her former colleagues, complicit to her abuse. Her friends, all complicit. The only person abusing her is her own mind.

The only difference between me and the rest of her accused “toxic, abusive, complicit” victims is that I’m finally standing up for myself. She cant handle that. She can’t own all her posts and words and just say “yeah, that was pretty fucked up of me” so she just flings labels at everyone in her path.

Get fucking for real.